I’m at that age where on occasion you look back on your younger self and start comparing it to your current self. And I’m sure the older you get the more you do that, but I think in your 30’s is probably the first time you really start to look back and potentially cringe at what you did as a teen and in your early 20’s!
Personally, my 30’s have genuinely been the best years of my life so far, for various reasons. But the main reason is I think because they’ve been the years that I’ve felt most confident in myself and most comfortable with myself. Might sound a bit odd but it’s absolutely true. And actually, many others have said the same thing.
I truly believe that self confidence is key to a happy life – you have to be happy in yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. At least that’s my philosophy. And right now I am happy with who I am and what I am. All good then!
Without getting all deep and meaningful, when I think about why I have much more confidence in myself than I did say 10 years ago, I think it’s because I’ve learned to focus on what’s right for me. I’ve learned to listen to my own mind when it’s telling me I’m not happy or comfortable doing something. I’ve learned to ignore unnecessary criticism from people who just want to bring you down. And as a result of all of that, I’ve made a really good life for myself – I’ve worked hard to get where I am and I’ve been so incredibly lucky to have had opportunities to do amazing things and be surrounded by amazing family and friends.
I’m definitely of the opinion nowadays that I am what I am and if you don’t like who I am then that’s your choice and your loss. Basically, it’s not my problem, it’s yours. 10 years ago I’d have been distraught if I’d have had even an inkling that someone didn’t like me, or if I’d said something slightly controversial that might have upset one person that I didn’t really know that well. But definitely not now!
There is a fine line though between what I would call happiness confidence and arrogance confidence. If I ever cross the line into arrogance confidence then I fully expect someone to give me a slap round the head and tell me to get a grip! But I hope that will never be necessary. I’m not sure it’s even in me to be arrogant so hopefully it’s not something to worry about!
In the age of social media where it’s now common place to post updates, pictures or videos every 5 minutes, I personally have struggled with being comfortable in posting pictures of myself. In fact when I first went on to social media, I wasn’t overly keen on posting anything because I didn’t want people to think I was stupid by saying what I was saying or because of what I was taking a picture of. I was just there to see what other people were posting!
It does take some level of confidence I think, to post anything online. And to be honest, I still struggle with it even though I do take selfies now and then and I do post them on Instagram and Facebook. It’s still an area that I don’t have a great deal of confidence in.
In fact even just making the decision to create this blog took a huge amount of confidence. And every time I write a new post, and post a link to it on twitter, that also takes a lot of confidence as well. I always worry about people reading it and what they’ll think of it or what they’ll think of me and my opinions. Which actually is stupid really because I don’t write anything that could be considered remotely controversial, I just write about simple stuff! And I do that because it makes me happy to do it, and that’s the main thing.
The reason I wanted to create a blog in the first place was actually to help with my confidence, particularly around dressing. If you read back on my first few blogs, I started doing an experiment to try and vary what I was wearing. And it worked! But I did it in a public place because if I’d tried to do it with only me knowing about it, I wouldn’t have done it. And that was a huge decision for me – I’d never been one for putting myself out there, and especially into an arena where it’s easy to get criticised.
And even after nearly a year of posting pictures of my outfit’s I still struggle to find the confidence to post pictures every week. But I’ve persevered and it really has helped me a lot to have more confidence in myself. And having confidence in yourself increases your own happiness which in turn just leads to a better life!
So as per every other week, here we go with last weeks pictures:
The middle of the week got a bit overly simple, but in my defence, sometimes you really do just need to chuck on a vest top or t-shirt and a cardigan and be done with it! So that’s what I did! But the khaki coat had it’s first and second outing and I love it! Great purchase from Gap, easy to wear with pretty much anything and it’ll get tons of wear over the spring and summer I’m sure.
That’s all for now peeps. Happy dressing and happy confidence building to you all! 🙂